Wow things are TENSE in my parts of the woods! I got into it with a friend of mine the other day. She seriously takes things for granted. She has this amazing ability to make people fear her but when anything is brought up she has this amazing ability to turn it around and make you look and feel like the bad guy. Not sure how much sense that actually makes. I am at a loss as what to do. I have been there whenever she has needed me. she has four children, had the fourth in july. I helped take care of her kids i bought things for her she didn't have when she ahd the baby. I was there at 9 at night when she needed my therometer cause she thought the baby felt a little warm. I was there when she needed me when her husband left because they weren't getting along. I give her a great rate at daycare for her son, who comes at least three full days a week even though she is a stay at home money and they can hardly afford food. I thought i was being a good friend. I honestly thought i was. she informs me it is too bad i turned out to be a crappy friend! I guess because i don't agree to everything she has to say, i am not a good friend.
Here's the issue. I gave notice well over a month ago, and told her before i gave notice that daycare fees were going up. Min wage is going up, food is going up, the general cost of living is going up. Her daily fee went up a whole five dollars a day. Keep in mind i sent this notice out 30+ days before it was to happen. well she informs me on the fifth of this month she can't afford daycare so he won't be coming again. In my contract it states thirty days notice must be given. I was fine with it...its ok if she can't afford it, but i expect respect, the same as i gave respect to her. So i brought up my concerns, that i wasn't upset but i felt disrespected. Of course i am wrong and she isn't disrespectful. so a whole huge arguement ensued and it all boiled down to she is an awesome friend, i am a crappy friend who needs to get off my high horse. It would all be alright but this girl is my best friends sil. I will be running into her, i will hear things about her, she will always be there. and it will be hard. goodness its alot of work i don't really have the time or the energy to do.
What do i do. do i write her a letter saying i am sorry, do i leave it and walk the other way. i am lost. I do want to apologize, but i know she won't see it as an apology so much as a gravel. She is a person it is VERY hard to be friends with. I am ok with not being her friend, but i don't want it to be horrible, tense and bitter everytime we see each other. I guess i want the parting terms to be on a different level...so ya any advice?
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Why should you apologize for something when you are not wrong? You are a friend, yes; however she had her child in your daycare and that is business. Even though you're friends, she must see the business side and realize that she did not comply with the regulations clearly stated in your rules. You could have been a real butt and fined her more money for not giving you the proper notice, like a lot of daycares do here. I think you were more than generous. Besides, if she's a SAHM she really doesn't need to have her child in daycare. If she needs time to herself, she should ask a close friend or family member to keep and eye on her son. She is taking advantage of you, your business, and your generosity. Honestly, I say its her loss. You were being a nice person - she is just angry. You don't need someone so negative in your life anyway. :)
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